A letter to my lads,
It takes time.
Maybe longer than you want it to.
But trust me, you’ll find the real you eventually and it’ll change your life.
It’s easy to say it doesn’t matter what people think but we both know that it does. What’s more important is working out who the right people are. That’ll take time too.
There are rights and wrongs and you’ll know deep down what they are. But that doesn’t apply to everything in life. There’s not always a right answer. Trust yourself to make the right decisions for you.
Don’t spend your life wishing you were doing something else or wishing you were with someone else. If it’s not working be honest and move on. You owe it to yourself to be happy.
No-one lives in blacks and whites. You’ll live in shades of colour. In shades of blues, reds, greens, yellows. Embrace it. Be prepared to be wrong and prepared to learn.
If you mess up, try not to let yourself wallow, take your bumps and bruises and learn from it.
It’s a cliché but misery really does love company. Negativity will drain you of your life, look for the positives no matter the situation.
Apologise if you’re in the wrong, especially with someone you care about and respect.
Manners don’t cost anything. Please and thanks go a long way.
Live in the moment and be present wherever you are and whatever you’re doing. It might never happen again.
It’s OK to think something one day then think something different a day, a week, a month or a year later. Perspectives change. Life changes you.
Make time for the things you love. No matter what anyone thinks, if you love them, that’s all that matters.
It’s hard not to question yourself and you may not realise you’ve been right all along until years later. That’s OK.
Be honest. With yourself and to others, you’ll sleep better at night.
Look after your Mum. She carried you in her body for 9 months. She spends her life running about after us all. Tell her you love her.
Treat people with respect but don’t ever be afraid to stand up for yourself, no matter who is speaking to you.
Regardless of how much money you earn in life, the most important currency you have is your time. Use it on things and people you care about the most.
Be proactive with your health. You’ve only got one body and one brain. Looking after yourself is underrated.
When someone is speaking, try not to pre-empt what they’re going to say, just listen to them. You might learn something.
Don’t judge someone based on what someone else thinks about them. Make your own mind up.
If someone asks you to keep something between you and them, respect them and yourself enough to do it.
It’s 100% OK to talk about your feelings. Please do it.
Remember, Mum and Dad don’t know everything! We’ve never been parents before, everything we did isn’t the right way and you’ll learn what’s right for you and your family.
You’ll probably not appreciate us fully until you have kids of your own. That’s OK. Just know, we love you and think about you every minute of every day.